Comments on: Doing nothing says everything

By: Muddling Along Mummy

Muddling Along Mummy — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 19:17:08 +0000

Fantastic post NS – I agree that the lessons learned bit makes me want to rage

Boys don’t have to be boys unless we as society condone their actions – their behaviour is a reflection on all of us and its just not acceptable

By: Jane

Jane — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:15:03 +0000

Absolutely fantastic post NS. Totally spot on.

By: mothership

mothership — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 07:03:54 +0000

Every time I read your blog I feel rage boiling up inside me along with a deep, abiding gratitude that I am no longer living in the UK or bringing up my daughter there. I have watched the backlash sexism after the womens’ movement and the PC 80s growing like a cancer all over the first world (it never really shifted elsewhere) over the last twenty years, but nowhere has it been more openly aggressive, accepted and ingrained at every social level than Britain with its tits-n-ass laddish culture, and the ritual degradation of women and girls that is so deep in the psyche of the nation that most people – women included – hardly notice it anymore. On my last trip to Britain I briefly watched an episode of Have I Got News for You Too (two?) and actually had to switch it off I was so offended and disgusted by the rampant, aggressive misogyny displayed by the ‘educated’, ‘witty’ participants in the name of comedy. Everywhere I turned there was a headline or an article putting women in their place which is disadvantaged, underrepresented and humiliated. We need to take back our collective consciousness and power and shout louder. This is unacceptable

By: Chic Mama

Chic Mama — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 22:33:09 +0000

Thank you for such an informative and thought provoking post.
It’s sad and I’m sorry to say but in this day and age, and after all that women have gone through we are still living in a ‘man’s world’. I have learned that in the last eighteen months and am trying to fight my own personal cause….which is really insignificant compared to this one and I thank and applaud you for highlighting these injustices.

By: JDF

JDF — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 20:59:19 +0000

One of my least favourite party lines from the Met is about ‘learning lessons’. Frequently, when they make some sort of egregious, harmful error, their ‘get out of jail free’ card (as it were), is to make a statement about how they have ‘learned important lessons’ from the episode. How lucky for them that other people’s fright, pain, frustration, and ongoing suffering have let them learn something new. Nice.

I work with sexual abuse survivors and far too frequently, I have to tell my clients that the police, the CPS, and the Criminal Injuries Compensation Authority won’t take their experience of rape or assault seriously because they were drugged and don’t remember the attack, or because there were no witnesses to corroborate their story. What lessons are learned here, and by whom?

Why isn’t there a branch of Men Stopping Violence in the UK?