Comments on: The downturn economy done turned on me http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:50:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Noble Savage » Blog Archive » You’ve got to admit it’s getting better http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4371 Noble Savage » Blog Archive » You’ve got to admit it’s getting better Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:53:47 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=742#comment-4371 [...] for the past week. But I wanted to do a quick update for everyone who commented and emailed after my last post, which ended on a pretty miserable note. The Noble Husband went into work the day after I wrote [...] [...] for the past week. But I wanted to do a quick update for everyone who commented and emailed after my last post, which ended on a pretty miserable note. The Noble Husband went into work the day after I wrote [...]

]]> By: Previously (Very) Lost in France http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4370 Previously (Very) Lost in France Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:44:51 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=742#comment-4370 Been there and currently wearing that teeshirt. My husband works in the film industry which has been incredibly badly hit by the recession. He's not worked for over a year, the pension is gone and along with it all our savings, we had to rent out our house in France and move back here to small rented cottage but we've learned so much about ourselves in that time so it's not all bad. So much of the important stuff has turned out not to be that important really. We have each other and we keep ourselves afloat one way and another. Even if the worst happens, it's sometimes not really the worst. Good luck. Been there and currently wearing that teeshirt. My husband works in the film industry which has been incredibly badly hit by the recession. He’s not worked for over a year, the pension is gone and along with it all our savings, we had to rent out our house in France and move back here to small rented cottage but we’ve learned so much about ourselves in that time so it’s not all bad. So much of the important stuff has turned out not to be that important really. We have each other and we keep ourselves afloat one way and another. Even if the worst happens, it’s sometimes not really the worst. Good luck.

]]> By: A Crafty Mom http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4369 A Crafty Mom Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:38:43 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=742#comment-4369 Ugh. I, too, have been there. 2009 was NOT the year for us, by any means. My husband lost his job last January, and I was not working either (was on extended leave from work, kids are 5,4 and 2). It was very hard on us, but I agree with the first commenter - you do always manage to get through it. It is hard, but then at some point it always gets easier . . . and better. And at the end of maybe my shittiest year of all time, I am somehow a better, stronger, more confident and happy person. My marriage is stronger (after almost hitting rock bottom) and my kids seem adjusted and at ease. We do make less than we were a year ago, and our lifestyle has changed (not in a major way, but every family makes cutbacks where they see fit), but overall we are still the same and maybe just appreciate what we have a little bit more. I TOTALLY and completely felt exactly like you. And having no childcare was VERY hard on me too - I have no family here where I live and my two boys are only in kindergarten 1/2 day so I still have three kids with me for a better part of the day. It's freaking exhausting. But you will definitely get through all of this. I promise. Ugh. I, too, have been there. 2009 was NOT the year for us, by any means. My husband lost his job last January, and I was not working either (was on extended leave from work, kids are 5,4 and 2). It was very hard on us, but I agree with the first commenter – you do always manage to get through it. It is hard, but then at some point it always gets easier . . . and better. And at the end of maybe my shittiest year of all time, I am somehow a better, stronger, more confident and happy person. My marriage is stronger (after almost hitting rock bottom) and my kids seem adjusted and at ease. We do make less than we were a year ago, and our lifestyle has changed (not in a major way, but every family makes cutbacks where they see fit), but overall we are still the same and maybe just appreciate what we have a little bit more.

I TOTALLY and completely felt exactly like you. And having no childcare was VERY hard on me too – I have no family here where I live and my two boys are only in kindergarten 1/2 day so I still have three kids with me for a better part of the day. It’s freaking exhausting. But you will definitely get through all of this. I promise.

]]> By: Jessica - This is Worthwhile http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4367 Jessica - This is Worthwhile Mon, 21 Dec 2009 19:26:45 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=742#comment-4367 Your situation (before the bad news) of a couple of days of being child-free each week actually has inspired me to do the same thing and I've felt guilty about needing it so badly as well. I'm still working on the details, but can't quite wrap my head around the point of spending money just so I can be "me" again. It's a sad lot that it comes down to money in order to free up a mother enough for her to feel her real self again. No judgment on the mother, of course, but of the way our societies are built: a mother alone, care-taking for hours on end, no village of support to speak of (that's free, anyway). To that end, what helps me when I'm feeling boxed in is to remember that this too shall pass. Soon enough the kids will be in school and I like to think that will be a magical time of self-expression and daily freedoms. Maybe I'm naive as hell, but it helps to look forward to anyway. Hang in there. Your situation (before the bad news) of a couple of days of being child-free each week actually has inspired me to do the same thing and I’ve felt guilty about needing it so badly as well. I’m still working on the details, but can’t quite wrap my head around the point of spending money just so I can be “me” again. It’s a sad lot that it comes down to money in order to free up a mother enough for her to feel her real self again. No judgment on the mother, of course, but of the way our societies are built: a mother alone, care-taking for hours on end, no village of support to speak of (that’s free, anyway).

To that end, what helps me when I’m feeling boxed in is to remember that this too shall pass. Soon enough the kids will be in school and I like to think that will be a magical time of self-expression and daily freedoms. Maybe I’m naive as hell, but it helps to look forward to anyway.

Hang in there.

]]> By: Stacey http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/12/16/the-downturn-economy-done-turned-on-me/comment-page-1/#comment-4363 Stacey Sun, 20 Dec 2009 16:24:52 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=742#comment-4363 I'm mega-late, sorry, which leaves me with nothing new to say except that this is totally sucktacular, which in itself is not a new sentiment. If there's anything I can do from stateside, please let me know. x I’m mega-late, sorry, which leaves me with nothing new to say except that this is totally sucktacular, which in itself is not a new sentiment. If there’s anything I can do from stateside, please let me know. x

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