Comments on: Why the sexualisation of girls hurts boys, too http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:50:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: 1234 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/comment-page-1/#comment-4155 1234 Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:22:38 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=689#comment-4155 We had shag bands when I was in Junior school (I am now 22) but I had got the impression that they had died out. Obviously no one ever did anything, but we did spend a lot of time trying to run away from boys trying to snap the bands! We had shag bands when I was in Junior school (I am now 22) but I had got the impression that they had died out.

Obviously no one ever did anything, but we did spend a lot of time trying to run away from boys trying to snap the bands!

]]> By: A Free Man http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/comment-page-1/#comment-4114 A Free Man Tue, 17 Nov 2009 04:17:23 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=689#comment-4114 Your equation of shag bracelets = peeled beer bottle label is a good one. I don't know how many beautifully peeled beer bottle labels I presented to girls in high school and I can guarantee you I left high school a virgin. Anyhoo, the matter at hand. I think you make a valid point, but I also think it's different with boys. Different issues. Yes, we need to teach them that being a real man has little to do with what you see on the television, but I think I can handle that. The sexualization of little girls is much more insidious and even though I always wanted girls, I don't know if I could have handled that. So, if you'll permit it - and yes I know it will get under your skin - I'm glad I have boys. Your equation of shag bracelets = peeled beer bottle label is a good one. I don’t know how many beautifully peeled beer bottle labels I presented to girls in high school and I can guarantee you I left high school a virgin.

Anyhoo, the matter at hand. I think you make a valid point, but I also think it’s different with boys. Different issues. Yes, we need to teach them that being a real man has little to do with what you see on the television, but I think I can handle that. The sexualization of little girls is much more insidious and even though I always wanted girls, I don’t know if I could have handled that. So, if you’ll permit it – and yes I know it will get under your skin – I’m glad I have boys.

]]> By: NS http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/comment-page-1/#comment-4091 NS Fri, 13 Nov 2009 14:59:08 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=689#comment-4091 Thank you everyone for all of your wonderful, insightful comments. I wish I could respond to them all individually but I'm up to my eyeballs at the moment so I hope this will suffice. I appreciate your feedback, as always. :) Thank you everyone for all of your wonderful, insightful comments. I wish I could respond to them all individually but I’m up to my eyeballs at the moment so I hope this will suffice. I appreciate your feedback, as always. :)

]]> By: Anji http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/comment-page-1/#comment-4090 Anji Thu, 12 Nov 2009 20:19:49 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=689#comment-4090 Hell to the yes. This is a more eloquent version of what I say when people tell me "As a feminist, you must be glad to have a boy!" Hell to the yes. This is a more eloquent version of what I say when people tell me “As a feminist, you must be glad to have a boy!”

]]> By: Jessica - This is Worthwhile http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/11/10/why-the-sexualisation-of-girls-hurts-boys-too/comment-page-1/#comment-4089 Jessica - This is Worthwhile Thu, 12 Nov 2009 19:37:40 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/?p=689#comment-4089 You're right on the money when you reveal the hidden messages to boys in those blatant messages to girls. It's not enough that we teach our boys to disconnect from their feelings and naturaly tendencies to empathize and sympathize, but we also encourage them to devour others sexually, politically, and athletically. If they don't fit that bill then they are left behind, bullied, or teased. If I could do one thing as an omnipotent being, short of saving and feeding everyone, I would wipe out advertising in all its insidious forms. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know that one could argue that advertising is a mirror to already existing mores and beliefs, but honestly I think it just perpetuates the absolute WORST parts of any culture. Until then, I'm going to encourage my son(s) to be as critical of sexual messages about girls as I would any daughter. You’re right on the money when you reveal the hidden messages to boys in those blatant messages to girls. It’s not enough that we teach our boys to disconnect from their feelings and naturaly tendencies to empathize and sympathize, but we also encourage them to devour others sexually, politically, and athletically. If they don’t fit that bill then they are left behind, bullied, or teased.

If I could do one thing as an omnipotent being, short of saving and feeding everyone, I would wipe out advertising in all its insidious forms. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know that one could argue that advertising is a mirror to already existing mores and beliefs, but honestly I think it just perpetuates the absolute WORST parts of any culture.

Until then, I’m going to encourage my son(s) to be as critical of sexual messages about girls as I would any daughter.

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