He named this website, you know

NS February 19th, 2009

I saw this meme about marriage on Dooce and thought I’d reproduce it here to give you a peek at how I live life with my other half, The Noble Husband.

What are your middle names?

Mine is Lyn; he doesn’t have one. I thought that was so strange and, frankly, disconcerting, for the first few years we were together. I had never heard of someone just not having a middle name. Not at all, not even an initial. Nada.

The funny thing is, he really wants a middle name and we’re always trying to think of a suitable one for him. I think the one being favoured at the moment is Jasper. I have no idea why. Personally, I think Thaddeus suits him better but he gives me a dirty look every time I mention it.

How long have you been together?

We’ve beeen together for 10 and a half years and married for nine. Our anniversary was just a couple weeks ago. We got married in 2000, which is really very convenient for remembering this.

How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Umm…a week? Maybe two.

Who asked whom out?
It’s hard to say. Techinically he asked me out first but he also asked my flatmates along so I’m not sure if it counts. But I say it does and this is my meme so that’s that.

How old are each of you?
I’m 29 and he will be 35 in a few short days. Once he hit 30, he enjoyed telling me regularly that the silver lining in that depressing cloud was that he still had a wife in her 20s, which made him feel younger. Now that I’m approaching the big 3-0, I think he’s liable to have a mid-life crisis.

Whose siblings do you see the most?

Strangely enough, mine, even though my sister lives in Chicago (an eight hour flight away) and his brother lives in Brussels (a two hour train ride away).

Which situation is the hardest on you as a couple?
The dynamics of our relationship changed drastically when I quit my job and became a stay-at-home parent. We no longer feel equal financially, socially or professionally, which sometimes bleeds over into not feeling equal in our partnership at home. He feels overworked and unappreciated and I feel the same. It’s an issue we struggle with constantly but we’re keeping our heads above water for the most part.

Did you go to the same school?

Are you from the same home town?
That’s a negative, Ghostrider. He’s a la-di-da city boy, born in Paris and raised in London; I was born in Podunk, USA and raised in Podunker.

Who is smarter?
That’s really hard to say because we’re both pretty smart and well-rounded. He’s considerably better at math, science and spatial-awareness stuff but I’m more well-read with superior written and verbal communication skills. Hey, we’re like a walking, talking, educational gender stereotype! But yeah, I think we both took an IQ test one time and he was a couple points ahead of me so I’d have to say him.

Who is the most sensitive?

That would be me.

Where do you eat out most as a couple?
Probably Giraffe, or at various independently-owned Thai and Indian restaurants in the area. It’s not often we go out to eat as a couple so we like to switch it up when we do.

Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Depends on what point of reference you use. If you mean farthest from the UK it would have to be Mexico, but we were living in the US at the time so it wasn’t that far. From the UK while living here it would have to be Bosnia, I think.

Who has the craziest exes?

Neither of us have truly ‘crazy’ exes but my ex-boyfriend became a little unbalanced after we broke up. I started dating TNH very shortly afterwards and didn’t want to hurt my ex by telling him I was dating someone new so soon. TNH and I had both just dropped some acid and were on our way out the door when my in-the-Navy-and-loves-a-good-fight ex showed up on my doorstep, demanding an explanation for why I dumped him. I made TNH hide inside while I tried desperately to get rid of him before I started laughing uncontrollably or tracing rainbows on his face. He left in the nick of time.

Who has the worst temper?
I have destroyed a computer monitor, a filing cabinet, a toiletries tower and a metal bin while in a rage. I think it’s safe to say I do.

Who does the cooking?

90% him. He even makes my sandwiches for me on the weekends.

Who is the neat-freak?
I actually get turned on when I see TNH cleaning without being asked.

Who is more stubborn?

Me. By a long shot.

Who hogs the bed?
Him. All 6’4″ with super-long legs of him. I, on the other hand, can sleep on a strip of bed the size of Nicole Richie’s thigh.

Who wakes up earlier?
It was me for a loooong time but for a few months now he’s been getting up early with The Noble Child and letting me sleep a bit later since I’m up with the baby in the middle of the night a couple times.

Where was your first date?

Our first date alone (not in a group at the pub) was at a Mexican restaurant in Germany for my birthday, followed by shots of tequila and whiskey at a rowdy Irish bar. He had to come find me passed out in the toilets a little while later. Romantic, eh?

Who is more jealous?
I was quite jealous when we were in our long-distance relationship but I was only 19 at the time so it’s not surprising, really. Now neither of us are. Not a jot.

How long did it take to get serious?
As long as it took for the third ecstasy tablet to kick in. Ba-dum-dum! Just a little joke, people. I’d say about a month.

Who eats more?
He can eat more at one sitting but I’m a snacker. I eat all day long.

Who does the laundry?

Me. He tries to help sometimes but it usually just creates more work for me because everything gets all wrinkly and then I have to iron, which I avoid at all costs. Besides, laundry is something I don’t actually mind doing. There’s something cathartic about folding clothes.

Who’s better with the computer?
He’s the IT professional. I am merely a ‘user’.

Who drives when you are together?
He doesn’t have a driver’s license in the UK so right now it’s always me. Though when we lived in the US and both drove, we would get into some godawful fights when he was behind the wheel so I tried to drive whenever possible.

I tag A Free Man, Charlotte, More Than Just a Mother, Strawberry, and Courtney.

4 Responses to “He named this website, you know”

  1. [...] a great sense of humour. First ├╝ber-blogger Dooce did this meme, and then my good friend the very Noble Savage tagged me, so here’s a small tribute to Germany’s Top [...]

  2. Lyn says:

    It’s scary how much you are like me, huh?

  3. A great meme and a really cool way of us getting to know you (and you’re other half better).
    I did read this over at Dooce myself and think you’ve done a brilliant job with it.

    And by the way, what’s wrong with no middle name. I have no middle name. My mum said it was so no one could ever take the mickey out of it (as must have happened to her) so she didn’t bother. I spent my whole time at school being teased about being called Tara because it was considered a bit exotic in those days!

  4. A Free Man says:

    My Dad doesn’t have a middle name either.