Comments on: All by myself http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/ Tue, 29 Nov 2011 22:50:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Must Be Motherhood http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2502 Must Be Motherhood Mon, 09 Feb 2009 19:13:22 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/#comment-2502 I'm a better mom when I'm on my own with the kids or when I'm around strangers/new friends (we moved 2 yrs ago and I still wouldn't call anyone here a good friend yet...). I'm at my worst with my husband around. It's like I save my bad behavior for the person I trust with it most. Not good, eh? I think it's also related to the fact that I get annoyed that my husband doesn't do more when he's around, so there's a different energy in the air. Okay. End/confessions! I’m a better mom when I’m on my own with the kids or when I’m around strangers/new friends (we moved 2 yrs ago and I still wouldn’t call anyone here a good friend yet…). I’m at my worst with my husband around. It’s like I save my bad behavior for the person I trust with it most. Not good, eh? I think it’s also related to the fact that I get annoyed that my husband doesn’t do more when he’s around, so there’s a different energy in the air.
Okay. End/confessions!

]]> By: A Free Man http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2492 A Free Man Sun, 08 Feb 2009 04:14:57 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/#comment-2492 I know what you mean. I'm only home one day a week with Zach and as much as I value the time with my boy - it's often quite lonely. There aren't a ton of stay at home dads around and I just really don't fit in with stay at home moms. I don't think I could do it five days a week. I know what you mean. I’m only home one day a week with Zach and as much as I value the time with my boy – it’s often quite lonely. There aren’t a ton of stay at home dads around and I just really don’t fit in with stay at home moms. I don’t think I could do it five days a week.

]]> By: joanna http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2477 joanna Fri, 06 Feb 2009 04:13:00 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/#comment-2477 I completely agree - motherhood is supposed to be team sport. I was home alone with the kids last week because of snow days (after being a wahm for the last 4 months) and I thought I would have to be institutionalized. I stay up way too late just to have alone time after everyone's gone to bed. Our society does not truly understand just how hard mothering is, because mothers are ashamed to admit the feelings we sometimes have about our kids and our life. We all feel we are one more yell away from being reported but that every other mother has all the patience in the world... it will take a huge shift for this to change. I completely agree – motherhood is supposed to be team sport. I was home alone with the kids last week because of snow days (after being a wahm for the last 4 months) and I thought I would have to be institutionalized. I stay up way too late just to have alone time after everyone’s gone to bed. Our society does not truly understand just how hard mothering is, because mothers are ashamed to admit the feelings we sometimes have about our kids and our life. We all feel we are one more yell away from being reported but that every other mother has all the patience in the world… it will take a huge shift for this to change.

]]> By: NS http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2458 NS Thu, 05 Feb 2009 08:47:49 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/#comment-2458 @Lyn - I've definitely found myself doing that; using time I should be sleeping to have some 'me time'. I'm trying to slow down and enjoy it more but some days I can't help but want to fast forward a year or two when the screams of both are ringing in my ears. They're such loud creatures! @Strawberry - Huh, I hadn't thought about it like that before, that it might just be because I'm an extrovert at heart. I know I used to be but I thought I'd become more of an introvert in the last few years. I suppose I only did out of circumstance and am still an extrovert at heart. Or maybe I'm just a better parent when someone else is around because I'm afraid they'll report me. ;) @Charlotte - So glad to know someone feels the same! I thought it was highly weird to NOT want to be alone during the day but then want nothing more than to be alone at night. I suppose it's not really such a paradox after all. @LindsayM - Agree that they are (very cute) parasites in the beginning. Leaching all my energy, that's for sure! I'm definitely intrigued by the idea of home education but in my heart I really don't think I'm cut out for it. Who knows, maybe I'll change my mind when TNC reaches school age but for now I can't even fathom it, as lovely as it sounds. Will keep reading of your experiences with great interest though! @Lyn – I’ve definitely found myself doing that; using time I should be sleeping to have some ‘me time’. I’m trying to slow down and enjoy it more but some days I can’t help but want to fast forward a year or two when the screams of both are ringing in my ears. They’re such loud creatures!

@Strawberry – Huh, I hadn’t thought about it like that before, that it might just be because I’m an extrovert at heart. I know I used to be but I thought I’d become more of an introvert in the last few years. I suppose I only did out of circumstance and am still an extrovert at heart. Or maybe I’m just a better parent when someone else is around because I’m afraid they’ll report me. ;)

@Charlotte – So glad to know someone feels the same! I thought it was highly weird to NOT want to be alone during the day but then want nothing more than to be alone at night. I suppose it’s not really such a paradox after all.

@LindsayM – Agree that they are (very cute) parasites in the beginning. Leaching all my energy, that’s for sure! I’m definitely intrigued by the idea of home education but in my heart I really don’t think I’m cut out for it. Who knows, maybe I’ll change my mind when TNC reaches school age but for now I can’t even fathom it, as lovely as it sounds. Will keep reading of your experiences with great interest though!

]]> By: LindsayM http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/comment-page-1/#comment-2456 LindsayM Thu, 05 Feb 2009 07:35:39 +0000 http://noblesavage.me.uk/2009/02/04/all-by-myself-2/#comment-2456 Completely agree that parenting should be a more shared experience. I think one of the things that's made me more positive about having another child is that this time, being around my home ed peeps I will not be so alone day in and day out in those early years where you don't get anything back from the child, so to speak. I know it's an emotional joy, but for a long time they're just little parasites! ;) I do mean that in a nice way! But as "easy" as it is now, I still get hours on Saturday to myself and if I don't get that me time I get very wound up! You mentioned being interested in home ed on my blog, well, if you find yourself with a lack of adult company any time you could always go along to home ed meets. They're also for people with pre-school kids who are curious about or contemplating it. Completely agree that parenting should be a more shared experience. I think one of the things that’s made me more positive about having another child is that this time, being around my home ed peeps I will not be so alone day in and day out in those early years where you don’t get anything back from the child, so to speak. I know it’s an emotional joy, but for a long time they’re just little parasites! ;) I do mean that in a nice way!

But as “easy” as it is now, I still get hours on Saturday to myself and if I don’t get that me time I get very wound up!

You mentioned being interested in home ed on my blog, well, if you find yourself with a lack of adult company any time you could always go along to home ed meets. They’re also for people with pre-school kids who are curious about or contemplating it.

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